Let’s contain those fires as needed!

We got to cover boundaries with extended family on the pod yesterday, and we also worked on helping you and your spouse identify core values just in time to tame the fires of conflict that may erupt without good foresight before the holidays. 

I’m so glad because when you have difficult situations over the holidays, it’s never easy to anticipate what may come, but that doesn’t mean you have to let your complicated circumstances dictate your entire life each holiday season.

As you put forth healthy boundaries, you’re less likely to lose the extended family you love, and yet you’ll be able to team up with your spouse to make sure you take some time to talk about things that might be stressful beforehand.

Since we have a few weeks till the holidays truly settle in, ask yourself this: What will it take to get regulated for you this year?

Take a deep breath as you think this out and get the support of a coach if you need to!

Will you plan to drive separately to events? (If you get resentful about this, try to find another solution).

Whatever your unique boundaries, set your own boundaries so that you feel good and can be in charge of what happens to you during times when life could get very stressful and awkward.

Whatever you do, plan to show love and grace in ways that don’t get you dysregulated - this will be so important and will involve making sure there’s margin in your life.

Make sure you also give Courtney a follow on her Instagram, because she has absolutely loaded you up with just the spark you need for a terrific boost right here.

Find more ways to connect with your spouse in our 5 week relationship course or in our book, “Enneagram in Marriage.”